Monday, September 10, 2007

Of Pigeons, Sex and looking out the window...

Outside my office window there sits a pigeon. It sits there all day. Looking at the buildings around. Looking at the traffic below. Scratching itself. Making noises. Once in a while another pigeon comes by. They fool around. One sits on top of the other and flaps its wings mad. I think they’ve sex. It is too brief though, so I cant be sure. I am not sure if it is the same pigeon that comes in every time. Are pigeons monogamous? NGC covers only outlandish beings like Polar-bears and Penguins. Has anyone ever seen a program on Crows or Sparrows or Pigeons on NGC or Animal Planet? Aroon in one of his sketches has a boy looking at a fish-tank and wondering “All fishes do is eat, sleep and reproduce. Why do people have to do more?”. The pigeons remind me of this.

Recently, a clich├ęd (but not insignificant) question floated around at work, about what one would do if he/she had only a day left to live. Most guys said they wanted to attain Moksha (which is an euphemism for ‘having sex’, yea considering how old we guys were theres no need for euphemisms...but it adds to the fun while discussing such stuff). The only girl who said something, said she’d meet all her friends, take them to her hometown, be with her parents etc. I am just assuming she wasn’t being absolutely honest. I am a bundle of contradictions in the Moksha department. There is this (pseudo?)morality hardwired that prevents me from committing the act unless I am sure I want to commit myself to that person. But i find it ok for people to be in a full blown mutually non-commital relationship (that's a contradiction in so many levels :). I can't be them, but i can't fault them either. I am a fan of grey. But was dipped in black and white very young, and for too long, to fully embrace grey. And it is not about marriage or any such technicality (I don’t find the need to legalize relationships), it is just about the state of mind and what one feels towards another. Maybe some day I’ll wriggle out of this state of mind and agree with a friend who says “What the heck, it is just entertainment…why attach so much weight to it?” (though i dont realistically see myself trivializing the act to this extent), or maybe, though not as ‘liberated’ in thought, take a middle ground, or maybe someday tread the ideal path.

Hedonistic Hobo (a random blog that I am a fan of) writes “Look sex is a biological need, not a moral question. If you've entered in to adolescence and are now careening in to elderliness and are still a virgin then you're fucked but not in the way evolution intended.” I smile. I agree. I disagree. I’ve been standing on this border eternally and time has been passing by…

5 comments:

mani said...

1. I thought birds copulate through their beaks :-)
2. Both of us have put enough links to Arun's blog (he's #1 in google.co.in for the search term "arun"). I think we should stop this.
3. And I thought you lost your virginity to your own mind ;-)

Trauma Queen said...

trust me..and trust me entirely, completely and wholly when i say:

there are many MANY people who are in the same boat as you are - and not similar - but SAME boat. I guess it's one of those lesser known boats people see, but inadvertently ignore.

I think there is too much pressure on human beings of all ages (so cant blame peer pressure entirely) to be a certain type. At the same time, we all try so hard to be unique individuals - and the confusion happens when we try and strike a balance between both.

The tough part is always making a decision, knowing very well it is entirely yours and not influenced by other people/society/cultural or popular norms.

Anonymous said...

its not just biological need for every individual...for people(my friends in europe & US - not NRI but natives) who were exposed to such an outlook right from childhood it does sound tht way...but for thousands of others for whom from childhood it was not discussed abt at all and given seperate " ", it is something to do with morality(not completely..will think of the right word)...yet there are a few who dont get entangled in this bundle of confusion..atleast they have projected themselves to be :)

anonymous2

frissko said...

mani - i had a friend who thot even humans copulated that way (beak equivalant i.e) until 10 grade!...and yea, point take about linking arun:)...

trauma - hmm...there is no such thing as truly yours, is there?...there is conditioning to everything, but yea at a given moment it is possible to live by your own value system (that u build thru conditioning) and not confirm to anything else...i live like that but my system has grey shades here and there :)...

anony2 - when u find a better word than 'morality' for the context, let me know :)...

Anonymous said...

sure :)

anonymous2