Thursday, April 10, 2008

Tipsy again..posting again...with apologies to the irate anonymous commenter of the previous post..

I usually go out with a bunch of guys. There is no future with them since i am straight. Or i meet married women or women with boyfriends, fiances and the like (the unavailable kind). I am most comfortable with them since there is no need to appear cool or impress or score brownie points. But at times i wish i was meeting a woman whose feet my feet touch under the table, while we pretend to have a serious conversation about communism or theoritical physics, neither of which either of us have a clue about, and go on and graduate to touching feet without having to pretend. I guess i am too old for such games. But is anybody too old for such games? I've been middle-aged in my head for a while now. I think in the period from 26 to 30, an average human ages a million and 11 years, give or take 3 years.Was chatting with P the other day. When we talk, the topic shifts to my singularity every once in a while. She says "Have an open mind da...u dont have to tell anyone its arranged...but try and meet ppl...u dont have to marry every girl u meet...or any girl for that matter...but its nice to yell at someone in the morning when ur back is killing u...just for that its worth spending a few hours buying someone coffee-tiffen". Wisdom, no?

I used to think blogs were written by sad people with no personal lives. And then i started blogging. I used to think orkut was inhabited by stupid flirtatious 20 somethings with nothing better to do. But then i joined orkut. Buying a house, spending lakhs on a concrete piece, used to be an unthinkable idea and that's exactly what i did recently. Metamorphosis or wishy-washiness, term it as you please. I used to think arranged marriages were acts of desperation that i couldn't relate to. I don't think so any more. I am not out in the market. But when a friend tries to hook me up with a random being that he/she knows, i don't turn it down the way i used to less than a year ago...

ps: TQ, see, i can be tipsy and talk only about myself too. Am not all that nice :).

11 comments:

Parth said...

"I used to think blogs were written by sad people with no personal lives. And then i started blogging". Not true :-) Just people who can't get anyone to read what they write and count on the statistical comfort of the internet to solve that problem.

chandni said...

hello!

Tipsy is good :)

Meet new people....go on a date...what is there!!!

I still think arranged marriages are not as cool as falling in love and then getting married ...but well, to each his own :)

mani said...

if i know you right, your kind of girls don't hang out at shaadi.com etc. try match.com

that's where i met pooja ;-)

Balai said...

Avi... I think that if you put together all your recent posts as a book, it might sell good (atleast all the confused bachelors out there might relate to it and buy it). Don't we all love it when some one else talks about things that are similar to what is happening to onself :P

BTW...as to what P told you the other day
"Have an open mind a...u dont have to tell anyone its arranged...but try and meet ppl..."
"The Hindu" at least seems agree with her - see this article on the recent Sunday magazine ;)

Sudhanthira said...

good one! can relate to it so well!

frissko said...

parth - Yeah? I didn't think people who write blogs take their writing so seriously?

chandni - yea i know, what is there :)...And about falling in love and other such rosy things, what are the odds eh!!...

mani - i shall seek random strangers' company to walk to cemeteries with, lets see how things go...

balaji - The article was pretty decent. And thanks.

sudhanthira - Thanks.

Chitty Cat said...

oh man
even im good at writing such posts - n recently vowed to stop serious stuff n only write utter crap on my blog - n guess wot- no one is reading it. HAHA

about the usual singles/doubles conflict - the perfect match is probably a game of tennis

ok - terrible joke

yaar i dont think there is any diff between aranged or love these days. Marriage by itself is a huge risk and its only when u live with sumone - that you really get to know them. i personally know ppl who have dated for donkies years n got divorced 6 months after marriage. And India has a long way to go before ppl r truly open to the idea of live ins.

honestly - i think live ins are as traumatic as marriages. cos the human mind is such, it is very easy to bored of anyone after getting to know them. Or to have regrets at the first sign of wekaness in your partner. In love marriage too those chances r high. In arranged- there is so much to look fwd to

then again - in a love marriage ur sure ki the person foolish enough to like u despite ur bad mood swings, or temper, or back ache - is probably worth it. in an arranged its a bit dicey - u never know whats gonna come ur way.

end of the day - back to my first point- either ways its risky. and to modify a line from the hindu article - go for either route - only if ur completely open to the idea of spending forever with one person.

Chitty Cat said...

to add to my trauma joke

about the usual singles/doubles conflict - the perfect match is probably a game of tennis - mostly cos it begings with a love all

:D

Princess Fiona said...

considerin u were tipsy..was hoping ud be a bit more dramatic abt it...but i totally identified with the post...good one...

and as far as playin footsie under the table while pretendin to be engaged in deep, intellectual conversation...woooooo hooooo....u just described my dream date :)

and..yes..i am a random passerby....

frissko said...

chitty - that was a big comment. it was nearly like your fondfire comments :). all i can say is, the tennis and love-all anologies were terrible :)...

princess fiona (shit! this is like addressing royalty..you need a more earthly name) - i am actually much more conscious and aware when i am tipsy than otherwise!...once i even made a conscious attempt to write a fully grammatically correct and perfect spellingy post when piss drunk...(found some errors the next day, but was not too bad)...

GB said...

:D